Thrive with True Inspiration Using these Important Leadership Ideas and Skillsby Angeline Pacy on 11/14/18
This post is about leadership coping skills and leadership style. Use them as a guide. Adopting these tools not only creates healthier and more successful work and volunteer areas, they also work in personal life areas too.
Adopting a leadership style can be done in a healthy or unhealthy way. To create a thriving workplace and life, leadership and motivational tools must also be healthy (not just effective in the traditional sense). Even successful leadership can be improved upon by embracing healthier management tools.
In this section, I describe the concept of “driven” leadership and personality types versus truly motivated (and inspirational) leadership and personality types. What are the differences between “driven” leaders and “inspired” leaders? Read on to find these important insights, success tools and coping skills.
As a general observation, “driven” leadership styles and personality types primary operate within what neuroscientists describe as the “Fight or Flight Response.” This comes with specific qualities (outlined in more detail below).
In contrast, truly motivational leadership and inspired personalities operate in a more balanced way, moving fluidly between the “Relaxation Response” and the “Fight or Flight Response” as situations demand. What does this translate into tangibly?
Purely Achievement-Oriented or “Success-Driven” Leadership Exhibits Signs of:
- Self-seeking behavior, primarily operating for self-benefit, adopting the “do-me first” philosophy rather than acting on behalf of the betterment of the whole group
- Neuroticism, working to achieve success at any and all costs (legal or illegal), overlooking human rights issues, worker safety, healthy boundaries, and work-life balance, even making irrational self-sacrifices at the cost of personal and worker health, family and personal obligations
- Adopting an “Ends Justify the Means” attitude to not just “tighten up the belt” but cut corners for short-term benefits, arbitrary milestones and appearances of success (sometimes illegal or morally questionable)
- Fear-based motivation, operating from the standpoint of lack rather than abundance, a doom-and-gloom attitude that deflates others rather than uplifts and encourages others
- Aggressive or passive-aggressive communication style and behavior, adopting controlling behavior and procedures such as manipulation, embarrassment, humiliation, while shaming, isolating, or alienating others inappropriately, utilizes sarcasm as a means of communication
- Lack of mindfulness, does not take into account long-term consequences, does not plan ahead or takes on too much responsibility without delegation
- Routinely does not consider the insights, experience and opinions of others
- A lack of responsibility and ownership for mistakes or poor communication, blaming others, covering up mistakes
- Taking too much credit, not acknowledging vital contributions of others (big or small) that create overall success
- Unhealthy criticism, using overly critical language, overly inflammatory or dramatic, or frames criticism poorly, using blanket phrases like “you ALWAYS do this…” which ensures alienation of the listener
- Unreasonable expectations, "instigating a fight or flight response" culture
- Focuses too much energy or resources in job justification or gossip
- Inability to connect with staff, picking favorites, building cliques rather than building bridges
Truly Motivated and Inspired Leadership Styles and Personality Types Demonstrate:
- Healthy boundaries with self and others
- Frames criticism respectfully and positively
- Continues education in healthy communication areas to adopting positive communication skills
- Leadership has a team- or community-oriented emphasis for better collaboration, inclusion, unity, and worker-satisfaction
- A strong value and skill-set in delegation, seeking to discover the talents and limitations of self and others, delegating tasks to appropriate individuals (not punishing or overly-criticizing others who are not properly trained or naturally skilled in a task, re-assigning duties as appropriate)
- Effective coping skills for stress management such as good self-care, work-life balance, expanding healing modalities for stress, observing labor laws
- Reasonable expectations, including setting reasonable timelines and goals for self and others, abiding by laws (including labor laws and environmental laws)
- Utilizes a positive reward system for self and others, such as healthy rewards and activities for project milestones and achievements
- Utilizes mindfulness skills which consider the consequences of actions and feelings of self and others
- Leads by example, keeping a humble, gentle servant’s heart, removes ego, does not expect more out of employees and others than what they are willing to do themselves
- Takes ownership and responsibility for mistakes and behaves honestly and forthright
- Makes amends to others, self and community as appropriate
- Practices patience with self and others, implementing good "pacing" skills
- Uses conflict-resolution and crisis-prevention tools, adopting an intelligence-over-emotion attitude
- Celebrates individuality and diversity, conveying a healthy minimum standard of respect and tolerance for natural differences and reasonable self-expression
- Celebrates cultural and emotional intelligence (CQ and EQ, respectively), not just IQ
- Clearly communicates and outlines practices, expectations and company culture to reduce confusion and embarassing situations
Effective leadership requires plasticity in attitudes and thinking. We must never grow:
- Completely comfortable
- Completely self-satisfied
- Assess and re-assess self, staff, partners, relationships on a regular basis to discover what is and is not working
- Engage in life-long learning, training, coaching, mentoring
Adopting healthy coping skills is a daily, life-long process that creates motivational leaders, healthy groups and healthy environments. To make this a lifestyle rather than a pop-psychology fad, seek-out self-development and training resources that don’t just focus on achievement-oriented life-skills, conventional appearances and perceptions of success. Instead, seek out motivated communities that inspire and train-up leaders for lasting, positive change!
Quality leadership resources can be found online and through networking. Wellness coaches can be an important resource for inner-development. Spiritual and leadership communities that work for healthy (balanced) personal development, and also for the common good, provide inspirational leadership training. Organizations like "Activeight" raise up fitness leaders with purpose and can be used as an inspirational leadership model (that is dedicated to something greater than self). Toastmasters International is one of the most encompassing leadership programs readily available to the public. They mentor leaders and also help members to develop effective communication tools).
Don’t just get inspired to be a leader. Be an inspiration to your world today!